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Steel Wheels Bike Tour

My brother Trent is many things, including an actively touring musician. He is the front man for The Steel Wheels, a folk-americana-bluegrass band.

Occasionally he performs with mandolin player Jay Lapp as the Steel Wheels Duo.

Last fall, the Steel Wheels Duo embarked on the very successful Spokesong tour… via bicycle.

Take a few moments to glimpse behind the scenes of their tour…. guitars on bikes, hamstring stretches, and Haz Mat suits.  You get to see it all.

Trent Wagler / Steel Wheels music is available here, here, and here.

New album releases March 1, 2010.

Get it.

Christmas Stockings: the quandary

So, last January our family got a dog.  We had not had a dog ever before… I have never in my life had an indoor dog.  But this one? Since the moment we met him at the Humane Society, when he walked over to me and laid his head on my knee, he has been a solid part of our family.  He lives inside and outside our house.  He sleeps on our couch.  He eats our socks. I can barely remember life without him.

So naturally, in this Christmas season, our kids have asked if Sparky gets a stocking.

When Neil and I got married, we were given a set of Christmas stockings as a wedding present.  I thought it was a brilliant gift, because who thinks of Christmas decorations in July? And now forever and ever when I hang these stockings on the chimney with care, I will remember who gave them to us and that we’ve had them for our entire married life.

It occurred to me that I would very much want to continue the Christmas stocking hanging tradition when we added kids to our family, but I knew I would not be able to find the exact same ones we had been given.  This bothered my ‘all things in order’ head a bit, but I figured I could find stockings for kids that at least coordinate with ours.

Our daughter’s first Christmas brought the chance to start this all-important search. Not long after arriving at an attractive display of Christmas stockings, I realized the real question wasn’t ‘which ones’ but… ‘how many’?

Which is how I found myself in the Eddie Bauer Home store in December 1998, with our 8-month-old daughter in a stroller, debating how many kids we were going to bring into our family.

I was not having a conversation with my husband about this; I was in the store making this huge decision based solely on the need for a set of uniform Christmas stockings to be used in our family for all time.  Because you have to buy them all at once if they’re going to look the same, right? Because you can’t count on the same stockings being sold every year, or even the same store being there, right? (Eddie Bauer Home?)

So I deliberated and frowned and eventually bought three matching stockings and stocking hangers, thus arbitrarily declaring that we, Neil and Kim Bontrager, would have three kids.

Fast forward a few years and we find ourselves with two great kids and circumstances that have declared it to be so. We love our kids, we are not at all discontent with our family.  But we DO have an extra stocking.

And now we have a dog.

So, while the original question might have been ‘does the dog get a stocking?’, now we have moved on to ‘does the dog get the ‘third kid’ stocking?’.  Because…wow. I don’t know how I feel about that. What are the social implications, both for the kids AND the dog?

It’s possible I’m overthinking this.

But I don’t think so.

So, taking votes. What should I do?

Family Advent week 3

our family advent candles

Tonight our family took a moment … sitting, reading, lighting candles….
generally breathing a bit.
I highly recommend.

read this week’s thoughts with us
read week 1 & 2
the history of our family advent readings

Family Advent week 1 and 2

If you’ve read this post, this this post is going to seem ironic.
I’m ok with that, I just thought you should be warned.

A few years ago, it occurred to me that it would be good to try to bring a bit of structure to how our family gathers itself around the meaning of Christmas. In this season, my work life is completely consumed with creating opportunities for our church to collide with the truth of Jesus’ birth. How hard could it be to do that for our family?

*pause*

So I wrote up a set of ‘readings’ for our family to do together around our own Advent wreath & candles. The voice of Shiny Happy Idealism in my head had me convinced that we could do this together every night during Advent.

(bwahahahaha-ha!!! ohhhh my….)

Over time we have gradually changed what we’re reading together, and I am now ok with what we are able to do within our real life schedule.  This year, we are completely re-writing everything.  Our son is now quite a good reader, and deserves his own lines.  Plus we want to keep bringing everything back to the ‘why’.  WHY did God send Jesus here?  Why?

Last night was our first time to read together. We turned off most of the lights, gathered around a table, and sat… reading… listening…. watching.   Click here to see what we read.

You’ll notice some pencil edits…. ‘week 1′ had to become ‘week 1 AND 2′, since we just didn’t get to it in time.
(Oh, and there is not yet a ‘week 3′ or ‘week 4′. I’m hoping by sharing this with you, I’ll be publicly motivated to get it done.)

Our kids seem to really love these little moments.  Our son loves that he can read his part by himself AND we let him use a lighter. Our daughter seems to really thrive the discipline of quiet, even though, as an 11 year old, it’s not normally something she sets up for herself.  I hope this is a tradition we can keep alive… and that makes a difference for them.

So tell me. What traditions keep the meaning of Christmas tangible for you?

turkey turkey turkey 2009

Spending the day with my parents. Our girl came early to help with the food. Here’s what you’ll see:

the preferred turkey method for this year’s Wagler/Bontrager collaboration: frying
mom’s beautiful table
what the men do when the turkey’s frying
the kids playing
turkey turkey turkey
pie pie pie
downside to frying
what the men do during clean-up. :)

It has been a great day.
Thankful.

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